So, you want to write your own wedding vows? An adventurous task, but one that when done well, can be more personalized and unique than most. My husband and I decided to write our own vows and, of course, mine were sappy and overrun with my reasons for loving him and looking forward to our life together and so forth. Derek's started out,
"She's a tall glass'o water. She's sip a lemonade. She's a cup of hot darjeeling tea She's a cold tang in the shade. She's an oatmeal cookie. She's a crumble apple melba toast... She's the cream in my oreo,
That's the part...that I like the most."Unless you know the comedian Stephen Lynch (which granted, only our best friends did), this probably sounds a little cuckoo bird coming out of a Groom's mouth. But, I will tell you what; as soon as I heard the first line, it gave me goosebumps and made me crack up. It was the lines from one of our favorite comedian's songs and we had gone to his concert with our best friends that year. It brought back a fun memory for us, and for them, members of our Bridal Party, and started an otherwise emotional moment for a man, with a giggle. Derek then created his own lines that were personalized for me including a Jeopary reference that melted my heart. (Nerd alert!) He continued with the sweet words I'd hoped for, but to start with that, exemplified us as a couple and our life filled with fun. So, if you are thinking of taking this route, let me give you some pointers for success. The most important thing is to do your research. Read through others' vows and quotes about love and see what rings true for your relationship. Perhaps go back to old love notes or diaries for inspiration or just chat with your partner about the important moments of note thus far. Decide with your partner if you will have a particular structure such as "I promise..." or what have you. We did our own vows and then the officiant read more traditional vows (the I do stuff) after we were through. Another important point is to practice! You can practice alone or with a trusted friend, but make sure the words come out the way you want them to. You don't want to be fumbling with syntax on your wedding day. Make sure that you write your vows down. Even if you memorize them, you may be nervous up there and having a card to help you can be a lifesaver. You can even give it to your Maid of Honor or Best Man in case you need it. Keep your vows to about a minute or so. This will ensure that you are saying what is most important in your heart and will keep the audience's attention. Most importantly, look into your partner's eyes and say your vows with meaning. Allow time to stop for the two of you, and don't concern yourself with whether the words or your delivery are perfect. I assure you, they are.